Alright, listen up, my people pleasing folks. If you’re the person who tends to agree with everyone’s wishes while dying inside to say no, this one is definitely for you. Satisfying people is almost like a full-time job and those unpaid extra hours are undoubtedly destroying the inner vibe, huh?
Why On Earth Are We Doing It
Well, you’ve probably know, that no one is finding himself pleasing others for no reason. Of course, we can talk ‘bout your childhood traumas and all the stuff you’ve went through but can we switch to the good part, letting you therapist work with those traumas instead?
Healing is a long way to go. But, if you are reading this, you’re probably looking for answers and steps ASAP. So, now, it’s time to become your personal type of superhero and stop this freaking exhausting marathon of putting everyone else’s wants and needs above yours. Let’s jump straight in and explore how to make self-care not a fancy trend but a fundamental part of daily wellbeing.
Reason 1: An Empty Cup Cannot Be Shared
Yeah, it may sound stereotypical, but there is a reason stereotypes are thriving, so maybe we better ain’t go skip ‘em straight? I mean, if you’re always drained by giving away your energy, like sharing free samples at Costco, there’d be nothing left behind for others and, more importantly, for yourself.
People-Pleasing Drains Your Energy Completely
Whenever you agree to someone’s request when deep inside you would like to refuse, you are taking away the energy from your future self. Exactly – you’re stealing from yourself.
And what happens when your energy is depleted? You become irritable and tired and begin looking at everyone as if they are the source of your inner unhappiness (despite the fact that you actually volunteered).
Self-Care Is Similar To Recharging Your Phone
You wouldn’t allow your phone to run out of battery while you’re browsing TikTok and Instagram, would you? So why allow your soul’s energy to drop to 1%? Self-care is an attribute that keeps you on track – and we’re not just talking about taking bubble baths or good quality massage. It involves creating and respecting your own boundaries, allowing yourself to take breaks, and treating yourself with something nice and sweet, according to your prefs.
Reason 2: It Is Rude To Refuse
The reality of being a people pleaser is full of happiness and charisma until it isn’t. What’s up with that anger you’re keeping inside? It will undoubtedly be uncovered, and when it is, it won’t be a nice sight.
Rejection As A Display of Power
Have you ever thought that establishing boundaries doesn’t make you unkind? Nah, it simply means you are a person with finite time and energy. And this is why declining isn’t a sign of selfishness but a demonstration of insight. In reality, it represents the highest form of change.
Self-Care Prevents You From Exploding At Your Loved Ones
When you allow yourself to relax, you’re less likely to lose your temper over unwashed dishes or to silently accumulate anger towards your coworker for asking for “just one more” favor. It’s similar to handling your emotions—ignore it at your own risk.
Reason 3: You’re Worthy Of Happiness (That’s Right, YOU)
This may seem crazy, but your joy is fundamental. Quite a bit. You’re not only here to simplify other people’s lives, but you’re also here to enjoy your best life.
Self-Care Represents Self-Love In Practice
View self-care as a heartfelt message to yourself. It says, “Hey, I know you, I see you, I value you, and I won’t let you exhaust yourself.” Whether it involves going on a solo hike, indulging in bed TV shows, or having self-sufficient solo fun with some nice adult toys (because why not?), self-care focuses on engaging in activities that bring you joy. Even a once-in-a-while quick solo session with a favorite pleasure toy could do wonders when you feel you can’t take this all anymore.
People Will Have Greater Respect For You (No Joke)
When you put yourself first, you show others the way to treat you. You’re establishing the norm: “I won’t be walked over, thank you.”
Believe me, the right ones gonna take it with zero questions, and the incorrect ones? Alright, goodbye.
How To Prioritize Self-Care
Having established the importance of self-care as a transformative practice, let’s write the secret code to implement it effectively on a daily basis.
- Refuse without feeling guilty. Rehearse it in front of a mirror if necessary. Think about different situations where you may need to say “No” and practice till your voice becomes firm. “No” stands alone as a full sentence, darling.
- Prioritize “Me Time” as if it’s a crucial appointment—because it truly is. Whatever happens in your schedule, make time for meeting sweet and loving YOU each and every day, listen to what your inner voice is telling you, and journal it.
- Discover your hobbies and make ‘em your personal joyous time. Whether it’s cooking, painting, dancing, or, ahem, trying out new activities, prioritize those ones that inspire you.
- Establish boundaries with authority: Boundaries are not walls – they’re fences that include gates. Welcome the positive, keep the negative away.
Self Care For People Pleasers – Necessity Rather Than Selfishness
One crucial lesson to learn from this is that prioritizing your own well-being is not something luxurious. It is a damn necessity. You cannot continue to give, assist, and agree with everyone without eventually reaching a limit. Therefore, pause for a moment, take a breath, and prioritize yourself at the top of your tasks for a change. You’re not only deserving of self-care—you absolutely earn it.
Now proceed to set aside some time for your lovely self and ensure it has value. You’ve got this, mate!